In a  normal situation children usually show some preference to one of their parents to the hurt of the other parent.

There have been reports of parents that feel so angry about this situation that they come to the conclusion that the beloved parent has done some things to “poison” the mind o fht eir child against them.

The parents that are mostly affected are the new parents who have little or no understanding about parenting.

The truth is that the situation you have found yourself in is a normal situation and nobody has taught your dear child to be against you and feel as if you are about to kill him anytime you stretch your hand towards his direct in a  bid to carry him as every parent usualy does.

Here are six ways by which you can cope with a child who prefers one parent to the other:

1. Give the time child time and don’t take the matter personally.

2. Let the parent that is not ‘loved’ leave home for a few hours or even days. Surely,by the time the parent gets back, the child may have     decided that the “unloved” parent is not evil after all.

3. Giving the chance and with the knowledge of one who knows children very well,l can assure you that there is a likelihood that within the next year or so the child  will bounce in the opposite direction.That time the so-called “beloved” parent will be feeling neglected.

4.You should try to understand your child’s personality because children are not alike.If you have another child who does not behave the way the one you are concerned about does,do not try to compare the two.They are separate individuals that would never behave the same way.

5.You may decide to  follow the child around everywhere.In addition, constantly ask him questions.Do whatever he chooses to do at every given time. If he Is reads a book, read a book too. If he is jumps, jump.You should,however, prepare yourself for whatever he may want to do to reject you such as throwing insults at you, etc.Don’t mind. He will eventually wear himself down and both of you may end up being great friends.

6. Plan a Daddy/Mummy- Child outing on a weekend.If the two of them hang out, they may end up forging a strong relationship.

Coping with dislike is never going to be easy,but try any of the ways suggested above and see how effective they can be.

Enjoy your parenting efforts
Sikaz.