You must relate with your children very well to succeed as a parent .Get them close to you.Make them feel free with you because when they are they will not hesitate to tell you thier personal secrets.

If you establish a good relationship with your child, there will be free flow of information and communication between both of you.

Most parents experience some unexplanable inhibition when they attempt to discuss with their children.They fail because there is no good relationship between them and their children. Where they are close enough, they should relate well together.

You know what? It is even very easy to relate with your children than outsiders.

When you open up as a friendly, accomodatinbg and approachable person, your child will relate well with you.

Relate with your children.Feel free with them and see the good result.

Enjoy your parenting efforts.
Sikaz

You should ask questions from your child.Ask questions oneverything and about everything that is going on in his life.Indoing so,you will discover so many things you have never knewabout your child very well enough.

Besides this, you will also be sending the right signal to your child that whatever he/she is doing at any  given time would be subjected to scrutiny.It would be questioned and he/she had  a good reason for doing what he/she is doing at time.

Question your child about things relating to his/her education,religion,relationship,friends,sports interest,hobbies and social life generally.Don’t spare any area from your tight scrutiny.

I must,however, sound a note of warning here.Much as it is good to question your child;you should be discrete in the way you put your questions to the child.

Weigh the frequecy of questioning and the manner of questioning the child as well.If you are careful about this, there is every likelihood that you can get the cooperation of your child and all that you are looking for through your questions would be well answered by him/her.

To succeed in your parenting activities, therefore, you must learn to question your child at all times and get him/her to answer questions that will guide you to taking proper care of his/her upbringing.

Enjoy your parenting efforts.
Sikaz

Parenting can not be done alone,it takes two to tango,they say.Therefore, to go into parenthood with your partner is highly desirable for the two parents as well as the unborn child.

Why do you need to go into parenthood as a partnership with your spouse,you may want to ask.

Well, the fact is that when you are in partnership you do things together and you feel concerned about each other emotionally.

Your spouse will feel very comfortable believing that you are always with her to encourage her to carry on with whatever traumatic feelings she may have to endure during pregnancy.

The very day my wife gave birth to our fist child was the day my love for her grew in bounds.I witnessed what she went through and l felt for her more than l have ever did.It got to a time when the doctor told me to excuse them as l was making things more difficult for the medical crew.

I felt like this because l went into parenthood with the consent of my wife.We planned to be parents together.Therefore, it was easy for me to share her pains anytime she felt bad emotionally.

It is not an easy thing for a woman to nurse a pregnancy alone.It is killing emotionally and for this reason alone the man must show that he cares.He must encourage his wife by helping her with the house chores.

Make it a duty to go into parenthood as a partnership with your spouse.

Enjoy your parenting efforts.
Sikaz

Parenting is a serious business and everybody who wishes to succeed in this venture needs to truly work at it and look for whatever assistance he or she could use from whatever possible source available.

The Internet is one free resource that provide the required resources that a parent may need in the pursuit of his or her parenting venture to a logical conclusion.

The internet could provide a new parents access to any parenting resource he or she desires.

Yes, the common thing a new parent would normally do is to ask close relatives and friends for possible effective pieces of advice or to look for other parenting resource in the normal  traditional ways.

Some may even approach the library or bookstore for good parenting resource.This is mostly common among expectant parents.They usually read a parenting resource book or watch a parenting resource video or film.

These resources are good, to say the truth.

However,they may prove to be very costly.And ,if that is so, why don’t you just look for another way around it and spend less,if not nothing to get some valuable materials free of charge from the internet?

The arrival of the internet now makes it possible for serious parents to  choose good and valuable resource online.

The question you may want ot ask is if the online materials are going to treat the problem you want to solve indept,to this l will say yes.It all depend on the materila you desire and the website you visit.

The internet offers resources for parents who seems not to know their ways about parenting – especially the first time parents.

Online, you can do your shopping for materials and goods that are useful to you,besides books and audio materials  right in the comfort of your home .

You can also get parenting support groups,blogs or forums where other parents can interact and swap practical information with you.

These are some of the many reasons why you should use the internet as a parent.

Enjoy your parenting efforts.

Sikaz.

The question: “Have you ever told your children your story?” is very important for all parents to ponder about.

You as a human being must have a story or many stories to tell due to what you have gone through in life at one time or the other.

But the thing is that most people don’t seem to value the experiences they have gone through while they are growing up as teenagers.They don’t see these experiences as important enough to tell their own children.

The truth,however, is that these experiences that you have gone through are valuable lessons for your children to learn from, if they must grow to be better citizens as you are training them to be.

When you tell your children about those hard times you went through with your parents (their grandparents) the children would have learned a good learn about life and the hardships that could come in the process of  living.

No matter how hard you feel your growing up years had been, letting the children know about it is one important lesson you can teach them.Through listening to your story your children will come to value you the more.They will begin to appreciate the value of perseverance.

They will convince themselves that if daddy or mummy could go through what he or she had told them, definitely, they too must endure whatever hardship comes their way as they pass through life.

Tell your children your stories and let them learn from you about life and how to live it.

Enjoy your parenting efforts.

Sikaz

As a parent a time will come when you have to toilet train your child.This time proves to be somehow problematic for some new parents and they usually feel very frustrated about the exercise.

But you will agree with me that toilet training of a toddler is a very important matter that needs to be discussed by every serious parent.

Before you start to toilet train your toddler,you have to  ensure that there is relative calmness in your toddler’s life.

If you  are starting your child in a new school,you just have to  put off the processof toilet training until things have stabilized.This reason for this suggestion is that if you  have to add toilet training to a list of the upheavals in your child’s life,he may lose his self confidence.

Being a parent, you should avoid the pressure of giving your toddler toilet training  as soon as possible.

There are occasions when you have  time limitations or caregiver considerations, this does not mean you should jump into toilet training your child when the child is not ready for it.You have to resist the pressure.

If you doin’t avoid this tempation,your anxiety can create anxiety in your child,and this is not what you truly desirred,isit?

You and your child are not in any competition with anybody to know whose child begins toilet traiuning first.

As a good and loving parent,your own role is to allow your child to master each of the toilet training  steps at a reasonable pace. Encourage your child by fostering independence.

Devote some of your time and energy to providing direction, motivation and reinforcement on a daily basis.

You have to learn to endure an occasional mess;don’t display any anger or impatience when your child has an accident.Remember,he is still a learner who needs to be tolerated for any mistake made at this time.

An expert once advised that “If you’re training a boy, have him initially sit down to urinate. If he starts out standing up, he may not understand why he has to sit down again to have a bowel movement. In time, he’ll learn to urinate standing up by watching dad”.

These are some tips about toilet training your toddler that you should work on to have a successful training as a concerned parent.

Enjoy your parenting efforts.
Sikaz

If your child must grow and be wise, he or she must learn to make mistakes; fail and learn from such mistakes and failure. Anything short of this should be regarded as a pointer to a calamitous life which will benefit neither you nor your dear child.
Learning is a natural way by which all creatures gain knowledge. This process is never smooth, as mistakes will happen from which most of the everlasting lessons of life usually occur.
In the time of growing up a child must first fall several times before he would be able to stand upright and get going, walking all around. Even this does not come easy for anybody of that young age. While a caring parent must supervise them, our children should be given the opportunity to learn through their every day experiences – mistakes and all.
The best we could do as parents is to point to the right direction to them to go; we should, under no circumstance, help them do the things they must do on their own if truly we love them as we claim.
The reason is that nobody could learn from an experience another person is going through without him feeling it himself. We may try to prevent our children from encountering accidents that may results in harms to their person; that is a legitimate work of parents.
But when you allow your child to learn from whatever mistake he might have made you would have done a great service to him because this, no doubt, would instill in him a life-long lesson.
You know what they say about experience being the greatest teacher? Well, having experienced it… he will never forget the lesson therein. This is far better than whatever explanation you may have to make on the issue at hand.
So, anytime the opportunity to give your child the chance to learn a lesson from his mistake arises, go ahead and let him go through it by himself as long as he would not come to any harm. It is good for you and your child to learn from any mistake.
Enjoy your parenting efforts.
Sikaz

The breasts of a mother who has just given
birth would naturally be soft to touch on the
first day or so after delivery; this usually
do not allow for the milk to come out for the
baby to nurse.

A few days later, say about three to four days,
a mother’s breasts will produce what is known
a the “transitional milk” which may make the
breasts feel very full.

A situation where the breasts become overfilled
with milk is what is called engorgement.

Engorgement can be really painful and
uncomfortable indeed.

Most mothers do not find it funny at all.

At times the breasts are engorged to the extent
that the baby who should be latching on will
have trouble latching on thereby compounding
the mother’s problem because unless something
is done to reduce the milk in the breasts, the
mother will continue to face the pain and
discomfort.

So, what is the best solution to this “pain-in
–the- breasts”?

Very simple…

Simply nurse your baby whenever he is hungry
and ensure that you empty both breast, at least,
about every two hours.

There could be some trouble here though. This
is a problem of indecision about how to go
about it; mechanically (through the use of
the breast pump) or manually.

You can easily do the manual expression of the
breasts milk by placing your thumb on the
breast, right above the areola, and your other
fingers underneath.

You should then gently, but firmly roll and
slide the thumb and fingers together toward
each other and right onto the areola just as
you are compressing the breast tissue

Other known ways by which you can ease the pain of engorgement are as follows:

Take a warm shower.Or instead of that, you
could just soak cloth in warm water and put it
on your breast.Theywill both serve the same
purpose and provide the required relief   for
you.

Massage your breasts; starting from under the
arm and down the nipple. Surely this method
will reduce the soreness you are experiencing
and ease the flow of the milk automatically

Try feed your baby first by sitting up and
then by lying down. Feeding your baby in more
than one way will help to dowse the pain you
are going through as a nursing mother.

Where warmth seems not to be enough, more
especially in a severe engorgement;use cold
compresses as you express milk from the breasts.

You can use non aspirin pain reliever
(Acetaminophen) to relieve the pain. It is
safe to take during breastfeeding period .
You should note, however, that you should not
take any medications without approval from
your personal physician.

Pain is discomforting and nobody sincerely
desires it, much less a woman who is also
breastfeeding a baby with all the discomfort
associated with a time like this.

Therefore, you should try as much as possible
to attempt some, if not all, of the above
methods to provide relief to yourself whenever
you experience engorgement.

Enjoy your parenting efforts.
Sikaz

Making friends is a social skill every parent should
teach their children to do successfully.Therefore, you
should teach your children how to make friends
who may help them in the future.

Encourage your children to try and experience all
the trials and possible errors of relating to
other people of his age.

Most children that are popular among their age-mates
are usually having one thing in common which put them
where they are now.The fact is that such children
have learned the required skills of social
competence when they were very young.

As a parent,therefore, you need to observe your child
to know the social skills that he seems to be lacken
now and then choose the one particular area in which
you want to work on.

The next step is to train your child privately.
Model the life of someone who has succeeded in
that particular skill.Your child should be told
why it is desirable for him to learn that skill.

Try give your child the opportunities to carry
out this new skill on his own,especially with
other children.

Arrange time for your child to play one-on-one
with his new friend.

Give the child the time to participate in
activities which he cherishes a lot.This will
give him the opportunity to interact with
others with who he could eventually develop a
friendship of some sort.

The provision of interactive toys will be of
help to the child that is being taught to
develop social skill.The child will usually
converse with the toy as he will converse with
a human being.

Teach your child how to encourage other people
especially his mates by praising them for whatever
good thing they have done.

Enjoy your parenting efforts.
Sikaz